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Bonita's avatar

I am so proud and amazed at your constant courage ,your ability to have an open heart…both in your writings and living…..there’s no doubt that Sash treasured you both immensely and there wasn’t a time she wasn’t loved and supported in her wee life here ❤️❤️

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thanks Reva 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗

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Raju Tai's avatar

Binu, I am moved always not just because of what you write, which is immense in its emotional wisdom, but how you write it. How you speak from the depths. Grateful every time you choose to share your experience with us. Within and beyond grief.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you Raju for reading with so much love ❤️

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Rakhi Kurup's avatar

Binu, your posts always overwhelm me and I cannot think straight while reading it. You should consider turning this writing into a book. It will help others battling similar grief.

Much love to you Binu.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Rakhi, thanks for this heartfelt response. The book is something I am planning on, but need to build up the courage to access all parts of this journey. So hopefully in a couple of years time.

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Roshni Gokhale's avatar

Binu, good to see a post from you, been a while. I admire how you have so slowly and steadily come around your situation. Bless you with lots of hugs 🤗

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Roshni, I have been slowly getting back to writing more regularly. Thanks for reading and for your kind words ❤️

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Ram's avatar

Thank you Binu… for connecting and sharing.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Ram, thank you for reading 🙏🏾❤️

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Sailakshmi's avatar

"This is by no means easy. It confuses me, angers me, and sends me down different rabbit holes of anguish." - Your writing is so beautiful and honest Binu. Thank you for sharing a piece of what you hold in your heart and your mind.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Sai, thank you for always reading and having a kind word for my writing ❤️

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Surender Makhija's avatar

Soulful. Your writings are like conversations with your readers and leave a deep impact on their minds.

Binu, such expressions cannot be calendar based. It rises from within, whenever and wherever. Just keep writing when the flow manifests

Thanks for sharing.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Uncle, thank you for reading and for being such a great source of encouragement and support ❤️❤️❤️.

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Amrita's avatar

Thank you Binu for writing these words. Such a careful and brave exploration of your own state of mind.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thanks for reading, Amrita ❤️❤️. Writing and sharing my thoughts here is very therapeutic as it helps me understand my own feelings so much better.

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Shruti's avatar

I am here on Substack also so I can read your writing, Binu. Thank you for opening your world to us. Your writing is brave, tender, honest <3

This is so resonant also because I can already feel the intensity of my emotions change and evolve and I don't like it. The intensity helped me inhabit my dad's absence better.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Oh I know what you mean! Relearning to inhabit this new shape grief adopts without a by-your-leave is hard. Makes us feel like traitors at times.

Sending love and hugs your way ❤️

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SUDHA RAO's avatar

Binu, ur writings are like conversations, touches you and makes you nod your head as you read... I can't forget Sakshi ,u know the reason.

Take care, lots of hugs

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Sudha, thank you ❤️. For ever grateful for all the love and prayers. 🙏🏾

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Binu, every time I read your pieces I learn how to write with honesty. Beautiful essay.

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Amrita's avatar

Beautifully put, Rohan and I fully agree. :)

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Rohan, that is one of the nicest things one could say to me about my writing. Thank you.

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Malavika Varadan's avatar

This is beautiful Binu. I love you. not a day goes by when I dont think of Sakshi. The candle lies on the reception desk of the theatre, and at my desk at work. I wish you all the strength for these new plans.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you Malu. I have to come and visit your beautiful theatre space one day.

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Sandhya Srinivasan's avatar

This amazing article (?) needs a long reply, but I quickly pressed the red heart to send you a hug first.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thanks Sandhya. Look forward to what you have to say, but in the meantime, sending hugs and strength your way. I have no idea where the emoticons are hiding on Substack when I access it on my laptop. But know I have clicked a few hearts in my head :)

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