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Bonita's avatar

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Priya Vikram's avatar

'If unsure about what words to use, just be silently present'...

An important phrase from a wonderful read. Thank you for this post!

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you Priya for reading ❤️

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Shruti's avatar

I will keep coming back to this essay, Binu. This is such an honest, gentle, and beautiful read.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you Shruti. I am so glad this spoke to you.

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RG's avatar

So much kindness to yourself and others—including the readers—and generosity in sharing your thoughts and feelings… Thank you.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you for reading. ❤️

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Ram's avatar

it’s breathtakingly direct and simple .. halfway through I realised I was almost holding my breath ..

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Ram, thank you for that comment ❤️. I am so grateful that my words resonated that much.

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Sandhya Srinivasan's avatar

What to say, Binu? You've said it all so accurately. Every phrase resonates. I shall read this again when in a better frame of mind (such a strange phrase this is really!). Thank you for this.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

I know. I wonder if we should just stop chasing that elusive state of being and mind, and make peace with the turbulent waters we have been dumped rather unceremoniously into.

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Sailakshmi's avatar

This is so beautiful to read. I love the word Vilomah too, it somehow fits, and is much softer than any other word that one may want to use. You share the impact of words both when you use and when you hear. Not only are you generous here, you are so kind and thoughtful. May more words fill that vacuum as you heal, Binu. Here's a warm and tight hug from me!

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Sai 🤗🤗🤗🤗. Thank you for always reading my words and your support.

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Charulatha Banerjee's avatar

Binu, thank you for writing this. Just being there is what I understood too. You are giving so much of yourself even as you are healing. Such clarity in your thought process. Very best wishes. 🌹

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Charu (if I may call you that), thank you for reading. I have realised that my healing is deeply tied up with my putting my words out there.

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Charulatha Banerjee's avatar

Yes Binu. 🤗

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Ila Reddy's avatar

Beautiful essay, Binu! ❤️

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Thank you, Ila ❤️

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Natasha Badhwar's avatar

Dear Binu, thank you for sharing with honesty, clarity, boundless courage and generosity 💛

Witnessing your journey of healing is a gift. It is empowering in the gentlest of ways.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Dear Natasha, thank you. I know I have said this before, but it can never be said often enough - your memoir writing workshop I attended allowed me the freedom and awareness to write with my heart and not just my head. ❤️. All of you created and held that space for me.

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Natasha Badhwar's avatar

We love you Binu. 💛

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Rohan Banerjee's avatar

Beautiful piece, Binu. I'm bookmarking this to read again. Loved the way you describe your own journey to find the right words. I can only imagine the effort it took to think and write with such clarity about this.

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Binu Sivan's avatar

Oh I thought I replied! Thanks Rohan for reading ❤️. I am so glad to have got this off my chest.

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